Reduce header dependencies for SocketEvent.hxx.

By making each SocketMonitor keep track of its ready flags, this
removes a lot of overhead from EventLoop::RemoveFD().

[[maybe_unused]] (introduced in C++17) is standard C++.

https://clang.llvm.org/docs/AttributeReference.html#maybe-unused-unused
says that this is equivalent to the GNU unused attribute.
Signed-off-by: Rosen Penev <rosenp@gmail.com>

Since we switched from autotools to Meson in commit
94592c14, we don't need to include
`config.h` early to properly enable large file support.  Meson passes
the required macros on the compiler command line instead of defining
them in `config.h`.

This means we can include `config.h` at any time, whenever we want to
check its macros, and there are no ordering constraints.